If someone gives you a house key for emergencies...

[Eltortu]

Its a bummer you cant plant a milk and chicken bomb in her house. Put some raw chicken in a mason jar and fill the rest up with milk. Put the lid on and put into a heating/AC duct. Once the heat goes on it will eventually rot building up pressure in the jar and then it explodes and those fumes get pumped all through the house and is impossible to get out

That is a good one, but how about this: get a can of anchovies and one egg, mixed them together in a plastic container with the lid loosely closed and place them under the seat of a car. Now that stinks like death, no jocking.

 

[Syn]

Some of y'all are evil. Me gusta.

 

[Olimpia]

I know, maybe we should make a black list of the ones of us to watch out for

I haven't decided what to do yet. She keeps texting me and I keep ignoring it because I'm debating whether to ignore it completely, like many have suggested, or just trying to reason my way out of the $50 (get a detailed list of what I "owe" her and then prove I don't. "no I don't owe you for the movie tickets because I bought you and your son dinner after"). But since she is unstable, I don't know how well reasoning would work with her.

 

[Ryan Jarosek]

I she is unstable, I don't know how well reasoning would work with her.

It wont work but ignoring her will drive her insane. WINNNING!

 

[pssh]

it wont work but ignoring her will drive her insane. Winnning!

+1

 

[Syn]

STOP IGNORING ME! >:C

No, really, people like her love the attention... don't give it to her.

 

[Olimpia]

Ok so this is the conclusion to this epic fiasco lol

I was going to ignore her for a couple weeks while I decided on a course of action. Thursday morning I got a text from her asking me if I had the cash. I ignored it. A couple hours later I get another one telling me that she needs to know because she's leaving town (probably needs gas money). I ignored it... after all, she had me wait 3 weeks for her to get her stuff. Later that afternoon I get another text letting me know that she was keeping my stuff.

So I decide, well hey, let's give reasoning a shot. If by some miracle she sees reason then it's a win-win. If she doesn't then she's still an idiot and I lose my stuff like I was already resigned to do anyway. Not much to lose.

So I ask for a list of what I allegedly owe her and for what. She repeats that $50 is more than fair (because supposedly I owe her much more), and covers stuff like gas and owed money for meals. I let her know, in the most non-confrontational language I can manage, that I repaid her for all that stuff usually within the same day, usually in the form of inviting her to lunch/dinner, movie tickets, gas, etc. Always with her agreement, of course. She replies that none of that counts because she only expected to get paid in cash, not food or things. I ask her that if this is what she wanted, doesn't she agree that she should have let me know at the time instead of agreeing to a free lunch? And if anything, since I've "invited" her to all these things, wouldn't she agree that we're even?

At this point I can tell that she's grasping at straws because she can't refute what seems like logic, and just tells me "yea, we are even. thanks for the stuff." So nothing, I told her that I was sorry that she can't handle situations with maturity and grace and that she has to steal in order to have nice things. She didn't like that one bit, you can imagine, but the only come back she could think of was to call me American white trash LOL So I told her that I hope she pawns my stuff and gets herself a world map and a dictionary, because Spanish is not quite the same thing as American lol

And hey, if anything, it's Eurotrash. Get it right, people!
So that was the (climactic?) end to this ridiculous story. I knew she'd end up keeping my stuff, but at least it felt good to give her a small piece of my mind. Petty, perhaps, but so satisfying.

 

[sandrachameleon]

Some suggestions:

Document everything, save everything.
Do not personally speak with this person anymore, by text or any other method. Block her from being able to contact you.

That done, either totally put it behind you as a life lesson (lesson being that people can be crazy, and sometime just arent worth the aggrevation), or
Alternatively:

Speak with starbucks owner, explain situation. Go up the franchise chain about the uprofessional behaviour of the manager (the one that banned you based on hearsay).
Report the items she has kept as stolen.
Request a restraining order.
Hire a cheap lawyer (or even a notary) to write a letter, sounding very officious, indicating all further contact with his/her client (you) should go through him/her, rather that to you directly, and to indicate the requiremet for returning the stolen items by a certain date and in a certain way, else "see you in court". Letters such as there arent expensive, but can scary to receive. You dont actually have to take someone to court if you threaten to do so. So the next step is still optional.
File with small claims court. You'll spend more than the items are worth, but it would make a strong point and perhaps scare this person into behaving morally.

Finally, if youre only renting, consider moving.
Crazy people do crazy things. Best to avoid them.

 

[Olimpia]

Sandra, if it were my own money I probably would do all those things (I'm still going to talk to starbucks corporate), but I don't want my poor parents to have anything to do with this. And I'm just a student now so I have no real money of my own yet to get a lawyer with. Fortunately, I move in 3 weeks so I don't have to be anywhere near her and that is a plus.

I considered a restraining order, which wouldn't be hard to do just based on the texts threatening to break in. HOWEVER, since she is so nuts, I worry about how she as an unstable person might react. A normal person would just avoid me, but she is capable of doing something stupid like doing damage to my car if she sees it out and about (we unfortunately live very close now, since her boyfriend lives just blocks from me, so we probably shop at all the same nearby stores). So I just sort of have to leave it as it is and hope that she has refocused on important things again - like her CHILD or the search for a job. But we can only hope.

 

[jojackson]

(I'm still going to talk to starbucks corporate)

Huh? You live at a starbucks? No wonder you have stress! Lol Too much coffee!
Hey you could still go on Jerry Springer but this time its
"Olympia says 'Starbucks is a Skanky Ho'"
Starbucks Representative Manager Gary Bean says "OMG You need a latte Biatch!"
Well Be right back to duke it out, after the break!

Ill Be watching with a cup of coffee!

 

[Elizadolots]

Olimpia, contact your cell phone provider. In all likelihood, you can get transcripts of all texts to and from your home. If that's the case, make sure to get them and use that as your preferred method of communications in the future. Make sure someone else knows about the transcripts.

I do want you to consider the possibility that this person is crazy enough to do something far worse than damage your car. Please stay safe. Carry (in your hand while you walk) pepper spray. It's not expensive and it is an excellent deterrent. Make sure people know where you are going and when you should be there.

I'm not saying act like you're about to be murdered, but act like it's a dangerous situation. If I have to drive in difficult weather, I call my husband to tell him I'm leaving so he knows when he should be expecting me, just in case something happens he'll know to be concerned.

Do stuff like that.

Please!

 

[Eltortu]

...speaking of Starbucks, I am drinking my Venti Cafe Vanilla Frappuccino and reading this thread...

 

[jojackson]

Lol Eliza, She wont be the least bit nervous now!

 

[melric]

...speaking of Starbucks, I am drinking my Venti Cafe Vanilla Frappuccino and reading this thread...

Mmm, I order one of those and my friend brought back a caramel frap

Another suggestion, change your phone number. Cell companies will do it for free if you say you moved to a different area code. Idk if it's free if you say someone is harassing you.

 

[Olimpia]

Huh? You live at a starbucks? No wonder you have stress! Lol Too much coffee!
Hey you could still go on Jerry Springer but this time its
"Olympia says 'Starbucks is a Skanky Ho'"
Starbucks Representative Manager Gary Bean says "OMG You need a latte Biatch!"
Well Be right back to duke it out, after the break!

LOL I don't even drink coffee but I liked going to this particular one to socialize with friends. It doesn't really bother me that she baned me from this one because I have another one the exact same distance away but in the other direction, but they have no grounds to do that. I'll just let the people in charge know and they can take whatever action they deem appropriate.

 

[Olimpia]

Mmmm cafe vanilla frapp..... So tasty in hot hot Florida.

I say the car as a likely target just because she's threatened cars before, while we were friends. She came over completely drunk one night to sober up (mad at MY boyfriend, of all things. In my opinion because he ended up with me and not with her, but that's other gossip for another day) and refused to come up to sober up so we stayed in her car and she kept threatening to break his windows or mess up something in the engine. I had to keep repeating to her that 1. I would not stay silent about her involvement in something like that, and 2. she has no money to spare in a legal battle. But she reeeeeallly wanted to. So I'm always sure our cars are parked within photographing distance of all our windows just in case.

I already walk my dog with one of those steel flashlights that they recommend in self defense classes, especially at night. At home I'm pretty safe because she's supposedly terrified of my boyfriend, because he works out and she thinks that he's juiced and at risk of roid raging at any second But I don't go out at night much alone anyway, but I am aware that unstable people can be the most dangerous.

I definitely will pass by my phone provider and ask for my texts in paper. Just in case I lose or destroy my phone, it is smart to get it all on paper.

Moral of the story kids, stay away from Sarasota because here there be crazies! lol

 

[sandrachameleon]

Olimpia, I hope it all has really ended, and you hear from her no more!

sounds like you are taking good precautions. too bad you have to, but smart to be cautious.

people do target cars - not sure why, but its the first thing many people think of. Someone I know had her car attacked a few times by persons with whom there was a grudge. After the first time she Put a security camera pointed at it when at home, and eventually caught the person "red handed" and the police dealt with it after that.
She also had a security bear - its a stuffed plush toy bear, in which is some kind of sensor. Its made for car security. When someone gets into the car (or breaks a window), they have 30 seconds or so to disarm the bear. If not disarmed, it emits a very very very loud sound - ear splitting. It would be impossible to remain in the vehicle without ear damage. People dont suspect a teddy bear of being anything, unlike standard car alarms that pro theives disarm quickly. If my truck was worth stealing, I'd have one of those bears for sure.

 

[kaylie]

Waaaiiitt a second.....

She threatens to deport you and then turns around and calls you American white trash?
Dumb people make my day

 

[jojackson]

Olly, very seriously now,
The whole thing is nasty, do you really want to be having to look over your shoulder,
and for how long? Isnt time to end it?
If you have anything of hers, Id pack it all nicely and take it to her, at work if necessary,
and just apologise for the whole mess, clean slate, be the bigger person, and smile.
If she fails to see how silly the whole things, just say goodby, no hard feelings ad leave it at that. Your both adults with your own lives to live.
The longer you let nasty feelings live, the bigger and more damaging they become, like cancer!

Its time to be Happy Olympia again!