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[squeekz1992]

Why are people so freaking rude!?! I am so glad the semester is almost over! One more class with these annoying, ignorant people!!

I will never take another Psychology class again, I can tell you that much!

All semester I have put up with these rude people talking about me literally right behind my back. Don't you just love that?

Apparently I am that "crazy girl" or that "stupid redneck" or that "freak that sits beside so and so in Psychology"

Apparently, if you think a person who has 5 children and purposely drowns all 5 of them, doesn't deserve an insanity defense, or to have any more children (IE Hysterectomy!!!) You are a freak. Did you know that? Well, then I'm glad to be a freak!

Oh and apparently if you feel the same about rapists and murderers, then your the one whose messed up in the head!

And when you say a life experience, like being abused, they start talking shit! Right there! right behind your back!

Today, the last "lecture" of class talked about malpractice and how this lady sued McD's for having "too hot" of coffee and they all jump to her defense! So I said "Well, I think it's ridiculous that people like her get billions of dollars, and people like my mom, who didn't even try to sue the Dr who almost killed her (she coded, they had to restart her heart) Because he hooked her defibrillator up BACKWARDS, and he made us go to court for it (it was either, pay the medical bills caused by what you did and we go on our way, or not, and he counter sued us!!) And he won. And I said how it was ridiculous and these people looked me straight in the eye and laughed and said "Well I guess life isn't fair" and the teacher said NOTHING not one person stood up for me and they started talking about the "crazy girl" again. I started crying and not one single person cared!

What is this world coming to that someone shares an experience and gets mocked ruthlessly for it?!

I wanted to hit this girl so bad, but I didn't. I have literally watch my mom almost die 12 times because her defibrillator went off, and these girls (and 2 guys) LAUGH at me for sharing!?!

I swear I don't even know what to say to these rude people on Wednesday.... They don't know my whole story, and mock me when I try to relate to them, so screw them. I was the bigger person, even if I left crying.

And that's not even the only thing I've been through that they laughed at and mocked me for! The teacher included!

I'm just really hurt right now, and I think I'm going to put it on the teacher reviews.

Sorry for the novel... they just finally broke me

 

[crocky]

Don't let them break you, that gives them the satisfaction of THINKING they won! I learned along time ago that just because I think something is no big deal that others may think it is a huge deal and that does not make me right or wrong just different. Feelings are feelings no matter how big or small and should be respected.

This really does not relate to your story...well kind of. But my grandmother use to tell me the same thing over and over again. I was a story about life lessons. Wether she realized she was telling me agin after the 100th time, I don't know but I listened to her as if she told me for the first time. It was obviously important being it weighed on he mind.

Sorry you had to deal with that but some people are just a$$holes.

 

[tkilgour]

I don't miss those days. College was a great experience for me. However, High School was not so great. The best advice I can give you is to ignore them, go about your day, and enjoy every minute of it. You never know what kind of hand life will deal you so enjoy it.

 

[squeekz1992]

Don't let them break you, that gives them the satisfaction of THINKING they won! I learned along time ago that just because I think something is no big deal that others may think it is a huge deal and that does not make me right or wrong just different. Feelings are feelings no matter how big or small and should be respected.

This really does not relate to your story...well kind of. But my grandmother use to tell me the same thing over and over again. I was a story about life lessons. Wether she realized she was telling me agin after the 100th time, I don't know but I listened to her as if she told me for the first time. It was obviously important being it weighed on he mind.

Sorry you had to deal with that but some people are just a$$holes.

Thanks It was just really hard because, like they do it all the time and this time they said (well, their attitude said) that it didn't matter that my mom almost died and the Dr got away with it, but it mattered that McD's coffee is too hot. I almost said something, but I didn't. And I guess it brought me good karma (or Jesus was proud of me lol) cuz I got this awesome rental car from my accident.

My Gramma says the same stories over and over again too It drives me crazy but I know I will miss it some day.

 

[squeekz1992]

I don't miss those days. College was a great experience for me. However, High School was not so great. The best advice I can give you is to ignore them, go about your day, and enjoy every minute of it. You never know what kind of hand life will deal you so enjoy it.

I won't miss them either lol. College is proving to be worse than High School, but the only real difference is no Marching Band or teachers who actually care about you.

I kind of ignore them, but today they just made me cry. We talked about 2 things that happened to me and they just made fun of it. Which was really immature and I hope none of them go into law enforcement or healthcare because they will SUCK at it lol..

It would have been bad to give into my impulse to turn around and hit her, but it would have felt SO good.

 

[VanessaS]

Girl, always stand up for what you believe in even if you go against the grain. That's what makes the world go around. We cannot all have the same views about everything. But I agree 100 % with you... Some people are just plain immature and ignorant. I believe in not poisoning our bodies with aluminum, aborted baby cells, thimerosal, and formaldehyde... Which 95% of the population agrees with. The common practice is called vaccination. I am the freak on my side of things. But I don't see it that way. I see my side as the educated side because I've done TONS of research on the matter and the everyday person has never taken the time to see what's in a vaccine. They just listen to whatever their doctor tells them. Challenge people, girl! Especially if you strongly believe in something. It's ok to not fit in the "norm" box.

 

[Carlton]

There's no law that says you have to agree with the "pack". Nor any law that says the pack is right, more intelligent or educated than you are. YOU know the facts about your own situation and they don't. If they want to puff themselves up by beating up someone else, let them. Most of the time when people are cruel they are desperately trying to make themselves feel accepted or superior. It doesn't work, never has, and never will. Don't stoop to their level by rising to the bait. That's what they want you to do.

 

[MollyT]

People can be so rude and cruel! I'm sorry you have had a hard time in your psychology class. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and if someone isn't mature enough to listen to another opinion, contemplate it, and be respectful about it, it isn't your fault. Just keep being you. I know it's hard to not react and get your feelings hurt. Thank goodness the semester is almost over! I DEFINITELY would write about that teacher on the reviews. Their job is to teach, not mock and degrade people in front of the whole classroom! You are the better person. Hang in there...it's almost over!

 

[sandrachameleon]

Im sorry you had such an unpleasant class experience.

You are entitled to your opinions. Classrooms should be places to learn many perspectives, including ones that differ from ones own. It should not be a place for blame or closed-minded judgement. It sounds like your instructor is inexperienced or was not aware of the depth of your feelings.

Next time, go to the instructor right at the first or second instance and explain your perspective and how you are being hurt. If you get nothing from that, take it to the Chair or Dean of the department. Dont be afraid to shop around for a college that has higher standards and a more inclusive feel for you too.

Dont let this one class put you off of these types courses generally.

 

[squeekz1992]

I love you guys

I never really have been one to stand up for myself and tell people what I think. But I have a great idea of what I coulda /woulda/ shoulda said afterwards.

Ive tried talking to the teacher, and unfortunately she is the highest level on the food chain at my school. She is a crack pot lol.

I only have one more day then I don't have to see her again.

I just wish I was born when life was simpler and people were taught values

I'm so glad I have this forum. Everyone on here is so nice and encouraging even when I'm down and out (and whiney! Sheesh. )

 

[Carlton]

I also think we are raised to expect teachers to be mature, informed, tolerant, to act like decent human beings, and to be models for others. When they don't, we find it hard to believe and but we may just swallow it. It is doubly ironic that your psych professor demonstrates such an immature and abusive attitude (when they should be providing their class the background that explains why humans behave like this).

I can remember a couple of really terrible professors...certainly most people have them at some point. The sad fact is that many of them teach only because they have to...so the university will fund some pet projects or research the prof cares more about.

Maybe you should send the department head a note about this prof...demanding that any psych experimentation (the abusive treatment of some students like you) the prof is trying to carry out using their students should require notice and a signed agreement in advance. That you do not appreciate being manipulated while you are trying to learn. I know it's probably not why the prof behaved so badly, but it might get the dept. head's attention and embarrass them both! Maybe you'll get a little bit of satisfaction too.

 

[squeekz1992]

I also think we are raised to expect teachers to be mature, informed, tolerant, to act like decent human beings, and to be models for others. When they don't, we find it hard to believe and but we may just swallow it. It is doubly ironic that your psych professor demonstrates such an immature and abusive attitude (when they should be providing their class the background that explains why humans behave like this).

I can remember a couple of really terrible professors...certainly most people have them at some point. The sad fact is that many of them teach only because they have to...so the university will fund some pet projects or research the prof cares more about.

Maybe you should send the department head a note about this prof...demanding that any psych experimentation (the abusive treatment of some students like you) the prof is trying to carry out using their students should require notice and a signed agreement in advance. That you do not appreciate being manipulated while you are trying to learn. I know it's probably not why the prof behaved so badly, but it might get the dept. head's attention and embarrass them both! Maybe you'll get a little bit of satisfaction too.

Exactly. I found it ironic too. She doesn't seem to care about it at all. She says that she "expects us to change the world" but then when I'm the only one who acted on what she said (I'll post the link here later, but I might do it on another thread as well for different reasons) she just lets them bash me.

She is the department chair for the psych program, so I don't know if there really is anyone who is above her But on our student reviews, you can bet that I will give her a piece of my mind.

It's really sad, because I was excited about this class and now I hate it, and I won't take another class like this (it isn't required anymore.) It put a really bad taste in my mouth, along with 90% of the Psychologists I've met. I used to find it interesting till I spoke to a bunch of them, now I pretty much think it's crap.

I know it isn't 100% bull, but it just seems like a lot of money gets put into it, and all the psychologists/psychiatrists I have met haven't cared/ just like to argue and experiment on you.

I will definitely make my thoughts known as you suggested.

I love this class last year. The teacher last year was AMAZING and cared so much and she made me want to learn more, then I talked to more and it got ruined. Tho I have met some very nice psychologists on here, so I know they exist. They are just rare I guess.

 

[sandrachameleon]

She is the department chair for the psych program, so I don't know if there really is anyone who is above her ....

Usually Dept Chairs report to Deans, or Associates. There is likely a VP of Education or some such thing that the Deans / Associates reports to, and above that a president.

 

[SarahcoadunatioZac]

I don't have much to say that hasn't been said, but the McD's lawsuit does have merit. The coffee kept at McD's caused 3rd degree burns, because of McD's policies. It had also in the passed burned an estimated 700 people with lawsuits that went no-where. So, this lawsuit was necessary to stop a practice that was hurting consumers/customers.

Also, don't know what happened with your mom/dr suit but it probably had to do with the consent form. Hospitals and ethics have a fine line and what's right and wrong is likely based on opinion. Though, if it is true he placed it backwards I would feel that some sort of retribution be paid.


Now speaking of your peers, I'm also in college and have witnessed similar situations, speaking of religion when I correct the instructor or a classmate. I guess because of my intimidating appearance I'm not treated the same way. I will say that their actions are that of small intellect and smaller potential. Be glad you are caring, in a world of desensitizing it's a rare trait.

 

[squeekz1992]

Usually Dept Chairs report to Deans, or Associates. There is likely a VP of Education or some such thing that the Deans / Associates reports to, and above that a president.

I'll look into that. Can't stand her

 

[squeekz1992]

I don't have much to say that hasn't been said, but the McD's lawsuit does have merit. The coffee kept at McD's caused 3rd degree burns, because of McD's policies. It had also in the passed burned an estimated 700 people with lawsuits that went no-where. So, this lawsuit was necessary to stop a practice that was hurting consumers/customers.

Also, don't know what happened with your mom/dr suit but it probably had to do with the consent form. Hospitals and ethics have a fine line and what's right and wrong is likely based on opinion. Though, if it is true he placed it backwards I would feel that some sort of retribution be paid.

I guess it did, but common sense says coffee is hot..I'm glad that people aren't getting hurt anymore, don't get me wrong...

And about my mom. No, it was totally negligence. And the bastard got away with it. We aren't the first to have this issue with him, but he gets away with it every time. Every witness on the stand said he was negligent but one of the Juror's was biased in the Dr's favor. He didn't pay anything. We had to pay him. We lost EVERYTHING, and my mom is in really really bad condition. It got fixed, but apparently it's not "Medical Malpractice" to hook up a device that literally replaces control of my moms heart backwards.

She has cardiomyopathy (enlarged heart) 3/4 of it has been ablated (burned off), included in that 3/4 is her SA and AV nodes (those are the ones that control which atrium and ventricle pumps and when, without these, your heart CANNOT function, and typically ends in instantaneous, or in some people just rapid death. She also has suffers from A-fib (her atria just flutter instead of actually pump) and V-fib (same issue in the ventricles). She has hypotension, tachycardia, 6 pulmonary veins (your only supposed to have two), and there are a couple other problems that I can't remember the names of though.

The question the jury had to answer was simple. "is it malpractice to hook up a life saving medical device backwards malpractice?" and they said no.

After that we had to go bankrupt to get rid of the medical bills. (I don't understand how bankruptcy works, but it was devastating).

I wasn't trying to explain that like anyone is stupid, I just don't know how many people know about those issues and how to explain it simply.

But yeah, according to the idiots in my class, getting burned by McDonalds coffee is so much more important than almost killing my mother. I haven't even mentioned what it did to her mind. She was so depressed for a very long time. Still is actually, she just wont admit it.

But I swear, if one more person tells me "life isn't fair" I am liable to punch them in the face or rip them a new one. Or both. My family has been through so much (not just with my mom, but with other traumatic experiences) that it would be nice if for once when I share in detail what happened someone cared. I shared in class, and got slammed down.

Sorry again...I wasn't trying to like jump you or anything. I just think it's retarded that all we asked for was for him to pay the medical bills that were obtained after his mistake, no retribution or anything and we can't get that. But if you say "McDonald's made me fat" or "Oh the coffee is too hot and nobody said it was" and can get billions of dollars.

Yeah, life isn't fair, but that's not just unfair, that is retarded beyond belief.

Now speaking of your peers, I'm also in college and have witnessed similar situations, speaking of religion when I correct the instructor or a classmate. I guess because of my intimidating appearance I'm not treated the same way. I will say that their actions are that of small intellect and smaller potential. Be glad you are caring, in a world of desensitizing it's a rare trait.

I usually don't speak up, but I figured it was a psych class so they had to care a little right? Nope.

Thanks It's just hard sometimes...sometimes I wish I didn't care at all so that I could get my point across and punch that girl in the face.... I wouldn't have reacted so strongly, but I shared and they laughed at me. Like literally laughed.

 

[SarahcoadunatioZac]

For your lawsuit it all boils down to what the definition of malpractice is in your state, and what the lawsuit was aiming towards. If it was for HIM to pay due to malpractice then he may be immune due to his status as a doctor and what his job entails. (Consent forums) However, if it was aimed at dismissing the pay for whatever happened as the cause of his negligence then I don't see how that went through without a mistrial/appeal. Had I been the lawyer I'd have sued the hospital for the fees after the fact. Not the entire bill, and not the doctor.

Sorry that it happened, and the judicial system is far from perfect. They actually pick jurors based on the ability to persuade and low intelligence level. Which is why in a trail they repeat, explain, and elaborate 50% of the time. This is my opinion, of course.

 

[squeekz1992]

For your lawsuit it all boils down to what the definition of malpractice is in your state, and what the lawsuit was aiming towards. If it was for HIM to pay due to malpractice then he may be immune due to his status as a doctor and what his job entails. (Consent forums) However, if it was aimed at dismissing the pay for whatever happened as the cause of his negligence then I don't see how that went through without a mistrial/appeal. Had I been the lawyer I'd have sued the hospital for the fees after the fact. Not the entire bill, and not the doctor.

Sorry that it happened, and the judicial system is far from perfect. They actually pick jurors based on the ability to persuade and low intelligence level. Which is why in a trail they repeat, explain, and elaborate 50% of the time. This is my opinion, of course.

That's all we needed. Was him to pay for the 9 hospital visits and the surgery to fix the "mistake". All we wanted was a settle and he refused because "He doesn't make mistakes"

Our judicial system is so flawed it isn't even funny... But it's in the past i guess.. I just got all ralled up cuz they laughed at it..