this stinks. :(

[danibug23]

ok first this might be long and semi personal so don't hate me.
well today i gotten the news from my doctor that i might have to have surgery... he told me that I'm going to have to go to physical therapy probably every day to regain the strength in my arm back :/ well after taking all this in and him saying its probably going to be about six months or longer for me to feel a 100 percent better i started thinking about my kids (chameleons). First about how i have to have surgery and how my fiancé is in the military. When i have my surgery i was thinking how i won't be able to give the proper care for them and give them all the attention they need as I'm the only one who takes care of them Second, after the doc told me about how this probably won't be my last surgery i started looking to the future which made me think about the military and moving every two years and etc. Well after i had a very long deep thought in the doctors office about my chameleons i think that putting my babies through moving every two years and how much stress that will put on them. in the result of this for the future for them i think its best for me to sell them :'( as much i don't want to do this i need to think about them and not me. as much i love them dearly and they are my babies its the best thing for them. ughhhh just typing this makes me teary eye. i know i will regret selling them and seeing them go to different homes. i see you guys as my best friends and family i just don't know what to do. i know what i NEED to do but its weighing on my mind that i need to keep them but its not fair by no mean for putting them through all that stress and me not being there a 100 percent for them. I have met so many great people on here and i don't want to loose you guys so hopefully i can still stay contact with you guys and everything but i feel like it will be really hard for me to get on here without having my babies as again i will say this stinks!

ps sorry if this is all a big mess in there with spelling and grammar I'm just blah and have a lot stuff on my mind and already very emotional.

 

[DavidBuchan]

Hey, did you have some sort of accident? I know people worry about stressing their Chams out, but I don't think moving every 2 years makes it necessary to sell them. Looking after them might even help with your physical therapy. Seriously, I know you're a bit stressed now, but this doesn't seem insurmountable if you want to keep your babies you can work it out

 

[K9Luvn]

Dani, I can tell you are very upset right now... as you have alot on you and that is very understandable. I personally have had 13-15 surgeries and an average of 1 a year. It has been hard. But having my pets with me as I recover when I can't get out has been wonderful for me. They give me company. I hope you can find a way to keep them with you.. you might find it better. If you can't I know it will be hard on you. I understand the emotional pain you are feeling. Please know I care.

 

[Samsonsfrogs]

I can understand where you're coming from. My hand was severed about 11 years ago and I had to go through a year of physical therapy. Like K9luvin said, he got comfort from them when he got home from the hospital, so maybe you will to.

 

[danibug23]

no i wish, i get really bad lipoma tumors and for some reason they are only supposed to just be under the skin and just chill there but for some odd reason no one knows is that mine attach to my muscle and make it hard move almost like a 24/7 cramp. it sucks really bad. and ones that i have now are in my right side of my chest that have attached to my muscle and my nerves which makes me loose all feeling in my right arm they still have not said if it was the lipoma or not so they are also trying to treat it as if it was breast cancer because they don't know where they came from. and they don't want to rule it out yet :/ so I'm dealing with all this mess going to the doctor everyday. but no the whole military thing is stressing me out because actually they are saying his next duty station might be England, Japan or Germany!! so we are all trying to get all that mess straightened out but dealing with the military and trying to talk to them is like pulling teeth. its just a really big mess r and right now I'm not home during the day to do the proper misting and feeding and cleaning because I'm stuck at the doctors :/

 

[Olimpia]

I move once a year, on average, and my chameleons always come with me. What's more, if I go home to my parents for long holidays, guess who comes with me? These guys are a lot tougher than we give them credit for. Moving around isn't awful for them, as long as they find themselves in a cage with all the stuff they need anyway, they don't really bat an eyelash. Don't let something like that make you want to re-home them, because it's really honestly not necessary.

If you don't feel you can give them the proper care, then that's something else, only you can determine that. But give yourself a week to think it over. I read once in a neuropsychiatry book that women in particular should wait 3 days before making a major decision, since our hormones (like stress hormones, for example) can make us feel very impassioned about something one day and completely differently just 1-2 days later. So this is something I'm decided to take to heart, so I always give myself 3-5 days to mull over a major decision and most of the time I really don't feel the same way at the end of the week. So give yourself time, really consider your options and see where you stand in a few days.

If you finally decide that you really can't keep them then we'll be happy to try to help you re-home your babies. We'll help you figure something out! But don't despair, you don't have to feel overwhelmed by things. We'll help you figure out something with your pets, even if it's helping you brainstorm how to adjust your husbandry so it's easier on you without robbing them of anything.

 

[danibug23]

I move once a year, on average, and my chameleons always come with me. What's more, if I go home to my parents for long holidays, guess who comes with me? These guys are a lot tougher than we give them credit for. Moving around isn't awful for them, as long as they find themselves in a cage with all the stuff they need anyway, they don't really bat an eyelash. Don't let something like that make you want to re-home them, because it's really honestly not necessary.

If you don't feel you can give them the proper care, then that's something else, only you can determine that. But give yourself a week to think it over. I read once in a neuropsychiatry book that women in particular should wait 3 days before making a major decision, since our hormones (like stress hormones, for example) can make us feel very impassioned about something one day and completely differently just 1-2 days later. So this is something I'm decided to take to heart, so I always give myself 3-5 days to mull over a major decision and most of the time I really don't feel the same way at the end of the week. So give yourself time, really consider your options and see where you stand in a few days.

If you finally decide that you really can't keep them then we'll be happy to try to help you re-home your babies. We'll help you figure something out! But don't despair, you don't have to feel overwhelmed by things. We'll help you figure out something with your pets, even if it's helping you brainstorm how to adjust your husbandry so it's easier on you without robbing them of anything.

i completely know what your saying. I've sat here and thought about this everyday while i was sitting there at the doctors office and i just feel like I'm not giving them the all attention and time that they need and it would absolutely break my heart if something happen to them because of my careless ways of taking care of them. i am just putting them up for sale right now and seeing how everything plays out but most likely if they don't sell before my surgery i will end up giving them to a great home. because i would rather give them away for free that i know who is going to give them a great home then just selling them to some random person that knows nothing about them. this really does hurt me through all of this but i know what has to be done and its better sooner than later. with my whole surgery thing they said if i have the surgery then they are going to keep me in the hospital for a about 3-7 days (which i think its crazy and way over ) just to make sure they didn't damage the nerve that the tumor has attached to then i started thinking my babies and how they are going to be home alone all by them self for a week without anybody to take care of them and with the moving thing with the military it just stresses me out because you never know where they are going to send you its like a one day you will be fine then the next day they just slap orders on you and be like here you go your going to japan just like they are telling him that his next duty station is going to most likely be England and that is going to be in six months, this whole thing is just terrible and i hate the thought of having to sell them and them go to new homes but i feel like its best for them. and i don't want my selfishness of keeping them hurt them in the process in the long run.

 

[K9Luvn]

Dani I am so sorry and I can see you do have alot on you with your health. I know this is a very hard decision for you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers as you get through your surgery and recovery.

 

[DavidBuchan]

Oh dear this does seem difficult now.....moving abroad might be troublesome. Sorry to hear about your illness too, I hope things look up and you feel better about it all soon. It sounds like you've thought it all through already, so I guess you know what's best. Olimpia is totally right though, they are tougher than we sometimes think so try not to add to your worries by beating yourself up. Surely you can find someone to throw them some food and water while you are actually in hospital?

 

[whereswaldo]

do you have family in your area? youd be suprised who will help with animals when your in the hospital. and im with the rest of the ppl your babies will probibly help your rehab make you wanna get stronger faster. want to add i do hope all goes well for you and im here to help.

 

[danibug23]

thank you guys for all your support i really need it, and no all i have here is just me and my mom. my grandma lives here but she calls them alligators and is afraid of lizards haha.