my guy is the same way lol, but he eventually folds from time to time to let me get him out. sometimes he wants iut and will paw for me when i get close, and he will come right out and sit on my head. NEVER touch their back always coax them out by just placing your hand under their chin. mine may be all puffed up, but if i do that he wont strike me, and he clams down. I have also read that its not to be taken to offense that the cham may never get out for you, because that is the way they are especially the veiled chams they (from what i have read) are the most aggressive of them all, but that makes them hardy since they are bigger ect