Courtney,
Unfortunately your posts are so incoherent that I have difficulty following any of your logic. It seems that your intentions are good but that you are incredibly naive and extremely misinformed.
First, you seem to have a fundamental misunderstanding about scientific research, what different types of research show us, what research has been conducted and how to find it. As much as you want to claim that we don't exist, as a herpetologist who studies chameleons every day and has studied them in the wild, I can tell you that there is a lot of information available about chameleon behavior, ecology, etc. There is always more research to be conducted (there always will be on any species) but there is a good amount available on chameleons that have been studied in the wild. You don't need to follow a single individual around for its entire life to answer relevant questions about these topics. These questions are accurately addressed by a number of different means and there is a good amount of research published on the topics.
Anthropomorphizing pets is common and not always bad. Unfortunately if you do it too much (as you are doing) you lose sight of reality and fail to associate behaviors, etc., with their actual cause. Chameleons are not your typical social mammals and are not responding to stimuli in the same way as a social mammal does. Not recognizing their natural instincts and failing to analyze their behavior in light of their social structure, place on the food chain, ecology, etc., is bound to result in incorrect assumptions about the animal that could result in failure to treat an illness or husbandry issue. You claim that people that don't unrealistically anthropomorphize their chameleons don't deserve to work with them but I would argue that people that do endanger them because they fail to interpret them correctly.
You stated "so to say dont handle dont house together dont dont dont.....we will never know untill we try." Unfortunately the reason we say this is because many people have tried many times and more often then not, it does not work. You also said "there is way too much infor out there that tells people what not to do..where is the info on what to do?????????" What you're failing to realize is that they are one in the same thing. This info is based on experience. You're refusing to realize that the information given on what not to do is in sound information and all you have to do to determine what to do is follow that advice.
You claimed that stress is an emotional reaction. Unfortunately in the case of chameleons, this is not exactly the complete picture. Stress is a physiological response to stimuli that results in changes in hormone levels and body functions. They are often not based on emotion at all.
Finally, you should probably look up the word "domesticated." Chameleons are far from domesticated or from becoming domesticated. They are wild animals, plain and simple.
Chris
