I trust whatever advice you can give! And ok good, I leave my hand outside her cage but close enough that she can reach it with her tongue! I’ll keep doing one hand! All I want is a gentle and happy girl too!!Door open showing her the food. Your hand should not go into her space. She has to trust you and come to the front. Granted mind you that I have only had 1 cham and in my experience this is what I did. He is a very gentle sweet boy. But I am only going off my experience with him lol.